By Phyllis King
One of the many miracles of the human body and its emotions is that it provides us with immediate biofeedback. Through our sensory network, we know right away when something is “off.” We do not always pay attention to it. We do receive signals. Other times we pay too much attention. We give feeling and emotion all the power.
In the past 25 years especially, we have evolved our points of view about the benefit of feelings and emotions. Previously the mentality was mostly to “suck it up” in life no matter what we were feeling. We have begun to understand the relevance and value of our feelings and how to use them. In the Law of Attraction, we now know that emotions tend to attract more fully and quickly than any other method we can practice. In other areas, we now have clinical data to prove the negative influence repressed feelings or anger can have on our minds and physical well-being.
We need a balance point when it comes to emotion. There is a point when emotion and adherence to it become a detriment to our overall wellness. When feeling the biofeedback of the body turns to emotion, we are immediately taken off center. In that, our truth becomes skewed.
Potent emotion is the most human thing we do during times of loss. Other times we consciously or unconsciously embrace a false truth that comes from our emotional biofeedback. In this awareness, we begin to understand that emotion, although enormously useful, does not always tell us the entire story.
Feeling tells us part of the story. Emotion tells us what we believe and can take us away from the truth if we are not diligent and remain observant of our life process.
The feeling is the side effect or the reaction to some stimulation inside of us. Feelings come forward for many reasons. An external event, an experience we have already had, trauma, memory, formed perceptions, and habits that have caused us to develop belief systems.
Human beings are creatures of habit. Depending upon the study, it has been suggested that over 90 percent of what we do, think, and feel is a habit. In that, we are not even conscious of the reactions and responses we have formed to our life experiences.
Our goal needs to amend itself to move away from the idea of constantly creating comfort, instead of accepting wisdom. We do not question our emotions. We do not qualify them or even consider whether the manner in which we react or respond has veracity.
All of us do it. We learn to navigate life with varying degrees of success by utilizing the information we have acquired through experience. In that, we formulate beliefs and opinions. Those opinions and beliefs cause us to create a life that feels safe and comfortable to us. Comfort is not always our friend. Any success coach will tell you that to make progress or move your life forward, you must stretch your comfort zone. When it comes to emotion, few people will take that route.
How do we know when emotion is our friend or when it solidifies a false belief?
First, we want to separate emotion from feeling. Emotion causes us to lose objectivity. A feeling does not override the rest of our perspective or our ability to be objective.
Next, we want to look at what caused us to be drawn into emotion. Courageously look at the belief, habit, or judgment that is telling us the story about what is true.
Adopt a system through meditation, exercise, or some other method that will pull you away from your emotional body to realign you with your mental acuity. We do not want to
divorce ourselves from feeling, but rather strive to bring our state of being into balance. This is where the truth most often lives.
Too often, we have a lingering trauma response or a belief that is entirely false. We adopted it because it worked for the moment we were in at the time. We never revisit it to double-check whether that belief is still serving us. Rather we plant our feet firmly in the soil set to defend our perspective. We become unconscious. We find it simpler to live an unawakened path. It may be on some level.
An awakened path will always lead us to a greater sense of wholeness and innate joy. It will always make us more magnetic. In that, our sensing becomes more accurate and serves to truly guide us rather than influence us.
We all have to face traumas, disappointments, and fatigue. We have to find a way to surrender to living in a manner that includes collaboration with a greater reality. We hear that reality through our hearts, not our emotions. The more we lock ourselves into a perspective that says, “I’m right, and my feelings tell me so,” the more careful we need to be that we are not listening to our own lies. Life is forever evolving. What was true 10 years ago may not be true today. We need to expand our view of life if we are ever to create a peaceful life and planet.
Consider your emotions and your feelings. Learn to align with the truth of them. In doing so more magnetism will develop. The things we need will come to us more easily, and loving relationships will always be our norm.
