We all come into this world and experience a unique life that offers many opportunities to learn about life, love, spirituality, and our collective experience. Our individual journeys are multifaceted as we are exposed to different ways of being or moving through life. This blog offers an opportunity to explore life through the lens of your personal self-worth. Are your beliefs about yourself helping you live the best life, or could you use a refresh of how you view yourself?
Self-worth or self-belief is one of the biggest factors in determining which lessons you repeat in your life and how you navigate these challenges.
Many metaphysical modalities look at life lessons and how self-worth is a factor. Psychics look at your karmic lessons that often require healthy self-worth to overcome. Astrologers, look at your second house to see how your self-worth might be expressed in this lifetime. Palm readers look at your fate line to determine if it’s clear and strong, or broken and undetermined. Numerology looks for numbers that indicate a strong sense of self and life path numbers that indicate where your self-worth might be impacted.
Traditional health care also recognizes that a patient’s self-worth affects their compliance with self-care and follow-up appointments. Our personal vision of self-worth ultimately touches everything we do, and regardless of what another tells us, we each have the choice to be strong and empowered.
So much is connected to our self-worth, and most of us waver now and again, questioning who we are as human beings, partners, parents, and even spiritual beings. Is there a trick to keeping the currency high in our self-worth?
In this article, the concept of a healthy self-worth is a person who feels empowered and believes they can freely choose the direction of their life. A robust self-worth isn’t obtained by comparison to others; it is an inherent belief in who you are, regardless of environment or situation. When I physically read a client, I note their sense of self. Is it strong and inspired by life, or does it feel fragmented and unfocused?
How High is Your Self-Worth?
Just like getting your oil changed on your car is important, checking in on your vision of self is important. Doing these check-ins can help you determine whether something is affecting how you feel about yourself and make the best decisions for your well-being.
How resilient do you feel? Are you able to take on challenges and then let go of what is out of your control? Our resiliency and self-worth go hand in hand.
How easy is it for you to be Intimate with others?
Can you communicate your needs and set boundaries? Do you feel worthy of love and respect? Our ability to trust ourselves and others is linked to our self-worth.
Do you prioritize your wellness and self-care, or do you always put others’ needs before yourself? Knowing what you need to thrive and prioritizing this is a sign of healthy self-worth.
Are you accountable for both your good decisions and not-so-good decisions? We are all human and will make both good choices and some questionable choices, but owning the good and bad indicates a healthy self-worth.
Are you staying where you are not valued? This could be a work relationship, a romantic relationship, or any other place that you have outgrown. Being able to walk away from unhealthy choices requires a strong belief in yourself and what you deserve.
Is it easy to have goals and make choices that reflect what you value in life? This indicates a healthy self-worth.
Are you your own guru, or do you find yourself constantly seeking others’ advice? A person who believes in themself will seek other’s opinion when appropriate but ultimately trusts their ability to gather facts and make a good decision.
How strong is your sense of self? This is the feeling of knowing who you are, feeling good in your own skin, enjoying time alone. I would almost describe it as a happiness factor. This feeling of enjoying yourself is also related to your self-worth.
Ways To Increase Your Self-Worth
Pay attention to your accountability.
Do things that you love where you feel successful, and slowly try new things. Recognizing that we all have a learning curve, so mistakes and blunders will happen.
Don’t take everything personally. Crazy and sometimes unfortunate things happen to us and around us. Don’t take it personally. This includes when someone is in a bad mood and takes it out on you; don’t take it personally. You just happened to be in the line of fire. This can be an opportunity to decide if you will let it go, or you might calmly let them know you didn’t appreciate the incident.
Show people how you want to be treated. This means if someone is
always late, or doesn’t follow through on plans, or does anything else that shows disrespect, let them know you don’t appreciate it.
Positive self-talk is important. Most of us have thoughts about ourselves that come to mind at some point in the day. Make sure you are giving yourself some positive feedback.
Keep promises to yourself. We can always change our minds, but if you promise yourself you will start working out, and you keep breaking the promise, that needs to be explored.
Have good personal boundaries and keep them.
Show up on time to scheduled events. This demonstrates that your time and others’ time are important and valued.
One of my favorite ways to increase my self-worth is to do something physical. I always feel strong and empowered. It moves energy in my mind and body and is pretty much my go-to for feeling good. Move your body in a way that feels good to you.
How to Maintain a Healthy Self-Worth
Maintaining healthy physical and emotional wellness practices will help you stay strong in challenging times. Part of this is being aware of situations or people that affect your well-being. Determine if time apart is enough, or if you need to take a bigger step away from the situation.
Bonus
One of the big bonuses of a healthy self-worth is your ability to manifest what you want. The more you practice your manifesting, the better results you have, and the more magical life becomes. This really is a snowball effect. It all starts with believing in yourself.
Faith in loving outcomes for you and the planet is also a bonus of valuing yourself. I originally planned on focusing on faith for this month’s article; as I mulled over the different components of faith and what might determine a person’s faith, I explored the link between one’s self-worth and their faith in a desired outcome. This internal dialogue reminded me of how important our belief in ourselves is; it affects everything!
Thank you for reading this article, and I hope it inspires you to be kind and loving to yourself and to know that you are a vital part of our world. Your happiness helps shift us all into a reality of fulfilled lives.
Photo by Christian Gafenesch
by Polly Wirum
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